This city stinks for women, the world, men, the train, the people and jokes stink for women.
It’s not that I can’t handle a rape joke It’s that I constantly feel like it a very tangible reality and people should gain awareness instead of gaining dismissal attitude towards it.
Women can’t enter a train car full of men without feeling scared, I’ve seen it, I’ve been there. So a guy who has never experienced being made to feel like pray, a guy who has never had to walk home with pepper spray in hand because there’s someone around verbally harassing him or even walking behind him, and a guy who hasn’t been hunted down by two very creepy women to a point that they have to change their route several times and call a loved one to let them know of the situation can hardly know the buttons he’s pushing when he casually jokes.
I’ve been quiet about this because of XYZ but honestly unless you are the person who enters a train and feels disgusted on a daily bases by the way representatives of the opposite gender look at you… you do not REALLY know what you’re talking about, do you?
I’ve been inappropriately touched in the subway and sidewalks more than five times , I’ve had to be and stay on the phone to feel safe sometimes and I’ve even had to confront men about what they’re verbally and actually doing. It’s humilliating, scary and horrifying. I’m the kind of person who’s extremely aware of her surroundings because I come from a country with high levels of crime. A joke about this is okay, but make a fucking point about it and be a man. A man? A human. A comedian, a real one.
Just like many if not every women in this city and life I’ve been exposed to verbal and actual harassment that SHOULD be illegal but isn’t and instead of dismissing a backlash about a joke people who don’t have precious little vaginas should really think well about what they’re saying.
I don’t know, my brother, my father, my comedian friends, everyone who I know knows this is a tangible fear and that I’ve been in horrible situations that have scarred me, all of them know that this is not a joke and would never treat it as such unless the humor is made to communicate a message of change, which can totally happen and I do believe in that. So I assume if you don’t have a vagina and are mad at the backlash you’re probably mad you also haven’t had a girlfriend or loved one… one who also maybe has been trough some shit.
In that case shut up and maybe think that the reason you’re saying this is also a reflection you haven’t had a woman in your life go through shit, and probably never will.
This subject makes me so angry, but I guess I’m just whining… right? I don’t get comedy, right?